You read that right. We did in fact spend our second anniversary of marriage fighting. Literally all day. (If it's ok to laugh a little as I write that, then I admit to it because I feel SO ridiculous now)
I have a feeling we aren't the only ones who have ever fought on a special day or occasion and made it feel royally AWFUL...but now I know how isolating it can feel when you start to think, "Good night, are we the only ones that could actually ruin our wedding anniversary?!?!"
Yesterday we celebrated 2 years of marriage. I posted a very nice blog post about it listing all the wonderful things God had been teaching us and yada yada yada... We went to breakfast, enjoyed the morning and then, disaster struck.
Do you even want to know what it was over?
Dog poop and going to the Mac store. (*ahem*)
HAHAHAHA excuse me while I pick myself up off the floor from laughter and embarrassment. Oh my goodness seriously what is wrong with us?! I won't even try to explain ourselves.
But we all know it wasn't really about dog poop and going to the Mac store was it? Is a fight ever really about what you're arguing over? I tend to think not. There are usually other issues brewing that need to be surfaced and discussed.
So we fought for about 8 hours on our dang anniversary because of failures to listen, the tension boiling over from the last 12 weeks, and an inability to keep me in one room without balling from sheer anger and disappointment at the outcome of the day. It was the ugly of all ugly cries if I can confess that you.
Anyway, there isn't some magical lesson learned but if you ever feel alone in being a big mess in life-take heart because the Deckers are right there paving the way of messiness and desperately needing us some grace. We are so ridiculously sinful and selfish sometimes. I do hope our next anniversary is a little more....uh, nice...but that's real life for you.
By a sheer stroke of genius by my husband, we collected ourselves and for the first time in history we did actually venture out late to try and clean up what we could of our anniversary. We went to Chik Fil A (my favorite. classy, no?) at 9:00 pm and caught a 10:05 movie which felt like a BIG adventure for us.
So there you have it: no roses and candlelit dinners for the Decker's anniversary this year which is fine by me. We just don't always roll that way. This year hashing out our issues, a fast food joint, and a late night movie was our celebration.
It doesn't get any more real life than that.
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.
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